Top or Bottom

There are many questions a gay man can ask himself. Question's like: Who is my favorite fashion icon? Am I really a Little Monster? I wonder what expansive shoes I'll wear today? But there is one that we cannot escape.

"Do you Top or Bottom?" It's almost like asking "How big are you?" 

We've heard this many times, either from friends or potential loved ones, and each time we take a pause. Not sure how to answer. We don't want to piss off the guy we've been stalking for six months and do you really want your friends to know? 

I, personally, hate this question. Partially because I've never had the chance to try it out. And also, because it's seen as a private matter. Only two people should really know the answer to this question. You and your partner. 

Does being a main Top make you a better person than being a main Bottom? Main top meaning you only top and main bottom meaning you're the bottom bitch, always is and will be. 

But can it destroy something once so special? 

Imagine this: you just got finished with your dinner date. He took you to a nice, expansive restaurant on the other side of town. You've had a few laughs and drinks. The waiter comes with the check. He instantly puts his hand over it. "I got it,"he tells you. He places his plastic into the slot and hands it over to the waiter. "What do you like?" he asks. You look at him. This was the beginning of the meal. 

"Top or bottom?" Instantly the dinner date is over. Ruined. He buttered you up only wanting one thing. 

This has also become a way of greeting over the gay community. Log onto Grindr. If you already have one, just know I don't trust you. Every guy on there is only after one thing. And the first thing they ask when they message you is....

But, I do have to say, It can be seen as something....Beautiful. You feel safe with your loved one, and maybe, just maybe, you'll switch positions. 

But make sure he takes you out to dinner first.